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Sarah Weissman's avatar

Hmm, I know you're goal with this page is not get too into the feelings-y-ness of it all so I hope you can forgive me. "But I wonder if instead of saying that that people are 'actually' bi, or accusing them of being in the closet, we can recognize that bisexual attractions are far more common than people want to admit — and that those attractions, on their own, are not enough to warrant a bisexual identity." I recently realized I'm bit this year and am also really happy with my monogamous marriage to a dude. But acknowledging that I'm bi feels *right* (I'm also thinking of the kindness you granted Kevin Smith) - is that wrong? Because if I'd never met my husband, I don't not see myself being with a woman.

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Lux Alptraum's avatar

I meant that people have to choose to ID as bi, and that many people who have bisexual attractions choose not to and I’m not going to force it on them. It’s not about how many people you’ve fucked.

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Sarah Weissman's avatar

Thanks! Also I just read your "life changing magic" (catching up after vacation) post which clears this all up too.

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Alia's avatar

I’ve known a lot of lesbians who have admitted attraction to men, but JUST CAN’T…and, hey, I GET IT.

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