I like how you’ve framed phobias with their implications. Do you think the difficulty of disrupting biphobia / bi pride is bottlenecked by monogamy and having to play defense in momentary choices (being in a hetero- or homo-presenting relationship)?
I mean yes and no. Monogamy is a part of it, I suppose, but a bigger issue is the belief in the constancy of the self: this conviction that the person you are in this very instant is who you always have been and who you always will be. Nonmonogamy wouldn't inherently solve biphobia because there's no guarantee that someone would always be dating multiple partners of multiple genders, or even on the lookout for multiple partners of multiple genders, because that's simply not how bi desire works. It's the potential fluctuation and shifts of bi desire that I think really underpin biphobia; in this respect it's not unlike people's discomfort with non-binary and especially genderfluid identities that can change from day to day.
I like how you’ve framed phobias with their implications. Do you think the difficulty of disrupting biphobia / bi pride is bottlenecked by monogamy and having to play defense in momentary choices (being in a hetero- or homo-presenting relationship)?
I mean yes and no. Monogamy is a part of it, I suppose, but a bigger issue is the belief in the constancy of the self: this conviction that the person you are in this very instant is who you always have been and who you always will be. Nonmonogamy wouldn't inherently solve biphobia because there's no guarantee that someone would always be dating multiple partners of multiple genders, or even on the lookout for multiple partners of multiple genders, because that's simply not how bi desire works. It's the potential fluctuation and shifts of bi desire that I think really underpin biphobia; in this respect it's not unlike people's discomfort with non-binary and especially genderfluid identities that can change from day to day.
Thanks for your reply. That makes a lot of sense.