Hi Lux...I read through the Hinge/when does a bi male tell a straight woman that he is dating that he's bi article and shit, had a few thoughts. First, most discussions about dating while bi, male or female, are almost exclusively focused on the under-50 demo. I'm 63, single and would LOVE to be sexually active. Not happening. Which leads me to my Second point: Since I was about 30, listing on most any dating platform that I am a bi male was an absolute KISS OF DEATH. If I had even a modicum of interested women when I designated my sexuality as heterosexual, when I listed that I was bi (because sometimes it felt important for MYSELF as well as potential partners to let people know I was bi), NOT ONE HIT from a woman. NOT ONE. EVER. I had several long-term relationships with women who knew I was bi well after we had been dating a bit, but the main problem with dating this way is that it's very risky. You think women dislike finding out that a man is married or lied about his age is creates a bit of animosity, try revealing that you're bi after one or two dates. And so, in trying to honest with myself—and others—about who I am, I have been up front in my profile about my sexuality. And again, NOT ONE INTERESTED woman. So, unless I give up this pursuit altogether, which I have done for periods of time, I think I'm going back to listing as hetero and deciding when the right time is to reveal "the truth". Ugh. Thanks Lux, for allowing me to whine...again! I hope someone else gets something out of this messy business of being a fluid, changing human with desires.
Hi Lux...I read through the Hinge/when does a bi male tell a straight woman that he is dating that he's bi article and shit, had a few thoughts. First, most discussions about dating while bi, male or female, are almost exclusively focused on the under-50 demo. I'm 63, single and would LOVE to be sexually active. Not happening. Which leads me to my Second point: Since I was about 30, listing on most any dating platform that I am a bi male was an absolute KISS OF DEATH. If I had even a modicum of interested women when I designated my sexuality as heterosexual, when I listed that I was bi (because sometimes it felt important for MYSELF as well as potential partners to let people know I was bi), NOT ONE HIT from a woman. NOT ONE. EVER. I had several long-term relationships with women who knew I was bi well after we had been dating a bit, but the main problem with dating this way is that it's very risky. You think women dislike finding out that a man is married or lied about his age is creates a bit of animosity, try revealing that you're bi after one or two dates. And so, in trying to honest with myself—and others—about who I am, I have been up front in my profile about my sexuality. And again, NOT ONE INTERESTED woman. So, unless I give up this pursuit altogether, which I have done for periods of time, I think I'm going back to listing as hetero and deciding when the right time is to reveal "the truth". Ugh. Thanks Lux, for allowing me to whine...again! I hope someone else gets something out of this messy business of being a fluid, changing human with desires.
I guess Hinge thinks it can one-up OkCupid?
Anywho. I've been seeing these ads *everywhere* now and something about them rubbed me the wrong way, and I think this may be why.