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Roger Knox's avatar

Hi Lux...I'm sorry, this is one posting of yours that I didn't read. Because, perhaps good-looking 20-something bi guys are having a moment, but speaking for myself, it's never been worse. I have been openly bi all my life. Almost all of my female relationship partners knew I had at least some sexual interest in men. However, the older I got, the more adverse the reactions became to my sexuality. So maybe now there is less and less tolerance of bisexual men by heterosexual women—even as as I know myself, my sexual tastes and my integrity better than ever and would love to share that with the right woman and/or less likely, the right man. I'll say it again just as an exercise: my bisexuality makes me a better partner for either sex. Sadly, especially in my early 60's, finding people that agree with me is extremely unlikely. You see, acceptance of bisexuality in general isn't all that rare; finding a romantic/sexual partner who considers that to be a value-added part of who I am is.

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Susan-Jane Harrison's avatar

I encourage you to read it because she’s disputing that this is really the year of the bi man. But I hear what you’re saying also. It sucks and in general when we only focus on youth we miss so much. I think being a bi man is at least as difficult as being a bi woman. And that this ties into the cage our hierarchical society puts men into, among other things. (Rooting for you over here)

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Roger Knox's avatar

I'm sure the post by Lux is worth reading and valuable. After all, reading her column on a regular basis has helped me define and really own aspects of my particular manifestation of bisexuality.

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Kris K's avatar

I love the movie Kissing Jessica Stein!

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Ella Dawson's avatar

That quote you pulled about bisexual women is so wild. Such a giveaway that the writer does not... actually... know about bisexual women's lives.

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Arnon's avatar

The year I can go more than a few weeks on a gay dating site without getting snarked at for being bi by other MLM, maybe I’ll buy into that..

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