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Adetokunbo Abiola's avatar

Yes, labels can be very deceptive. I think it's better the less one thinks of labels. It's why I try to steer away from labels.

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Roger Knox's avatar

I'm a white male, 62, who has gleefully had bisexual thoughts, experiences and desires from a young age. I'm more assertive than ever about my bisexuality and I am also increasingly annoyed at how much misinformation comes at me when I chose to share my sexual identity. There are so many assumptions that are loaded up onto male bisexuality. While I will continue to educate others and discover more about myself in the process, in my perfect world, I wish people would be more curious, open and supportive about the sexual choices other people make.

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Sarah Weissman's avatar

"Heteroflexible" does chafe me, too, but I could sympathetically see someone else in my situation using it. That is to say someone married to a person of the "opposite" sex, who maybe has less queer friends or less accepting ones or less who are polysexual. Because luckily I've seen the "Even if you haven't hooked up with a person of the same sex or a nonbinary person, it doesn't mean you're not bi" enough to internalize it. But I wonder if some who use feel like they can't CLAIM being bi because of internalized biphobia, or they're worried they'd be appropriating.

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