Something I’ve come to find dubious in dating rhetoric is the whole “if you know what you want, it will come to you” idea. Yes! Have standards! Have boundaries! Know what you want! But also accept that you will probably end up alone because of it! The majority of relationships are settling for what you can get because you’re afraid to be alone. Also, the majority of people kind of suck.
I also roll my eyes at the whole “sick of men? Just switch teams!” Idea, like deciding to date women means you will suddenly have a sea of options when, uh, there aren’t actually a lot of women available to date and finding compatibility and mutual attraction feels like a needle in a haystack.
Exactly, there's a lot of magical thinking in dating advice. I'm at a point where I'd rather be alone than settle just to be partnered, and that means... I'm gonna be alone for a while. Not the answer people want to hear but the truth for a lot of folks.
Something I’ve come to find dubious in dating rhetoric is the whole “if you know what you want, it will come to you” idea. Yes! Have standards! Have boundaries! Know what you want! But also accept that you will probably end up alone because of it! The majority of relationships are settling for what you can get because you’re afraid to be alone. Also, the majority of people kind of suck.
I also roll my eyes at the whole “sick of men? Just switch teams!” Idea, like deciding to date women means you will suddenly have a sea of options when, uh, there aren’t actually a lot of women available to date and finding compatibility and mutual attraction feels like a needle in a haystack.
Exactly, there's a lot of magical thinking in dating advice. I'm at a point where I'd rather be alone than settle just to be partnered, and that means... I'm gonna be alone for a while. Not the answer people want to hear but the truth for a lot of folks.
Hear, hear!
You're a little shy, and sad of eye, but very wise?
Now more than ever
You've heard the versions from the Moulin Rouge movie soundtrack?
Of course!