There is a danger of reducing queerness to aesthetics - it amplifies "you must be this cool to be queer" tendencies and makes accusations that people are faking it easier. There isn't a right way to be bisexual, you are not obligated to dress a certain way to be a valid bisexual, just because you dress a certain way doesn't mean you are bisexual, etc. And you certainly don't need to change your style depending on the gender of who you're dating.
But there are, imo, certain styles that people associate with particularly bi women, which I think are interesting to talk about because a) they're a lens into biphobia and fetishization and b) they highlight ways that bi femmes can still be queer, which some people find affirming and meaningful. Most of these articles you're responding to have a pretty shallow and trivial approach to bi aesthetics but I don't think it's useful to completely dismiss the concept. Some examples:
* Bright colored dyed hair has kind of picked up an association with bi women at this point imo. Consider that "blue hair and pronouns" has become a borderline slur against queer femmes that is distinct from say, stereotypes about scary or manhating lesbians. Instead, "blue hair and pronouns" signals that someone is whiny and whose opinions can be dismissed off hand - just like bi women writ large. (The phrase is also transphobic of course).
* Similarly, goth and alt styles for bi people of any gender. These scenes have always been bi and gender fluid - consider Siouxie Sioux's bisexuality, Morissey's cryptic sexuality, etc, as well as the bi chic aspects of 2000s emo I you mentioned in another post. Anecdotally I (nonbinary person) have flirted with/gotten hit on by a lot of women with these looks. The way media treats members of these subcultures parallels the fetishization bi women receive - consider the widespread fetishization of the "big titty goth gf".
* Some bi women dress in what I'd call a "campy femme" style that's conventionally feminine but louder, featuring bright colors & unusual accessories. Bi activist Lani Ka'ahumanu and *shudder* Krysten Sinema are a few examples. And the large amount of negative attention Sinema has received for her outfits is pretty typical of how bi women are treated in society at large - it's proof in their eyes that she's frivolous and attention-seeking.
There is a danger of reducing queerness to aesthetics - it amplifies "you must be this cool to be queer" tendencies and makes accusations that people are faking it easier. There isn't a right way to be bisexual, you are not obligated to dress a certain way to be a valid bisexual, just because you dress a certain way doesn't mean you are bisexual, etc. And you certainly don't need to change your style depending on the gender of who you're dating.
But there are, imo, certain styles that people associate with particularly bi women, which I think are interesting to talk about because a) they're a lens into biphobia and fetishization and b) they highlight ways that bi femmes can still be queer, which some people find affirming and meaningful. Most of these articles you're responding to have a pretty shallow and trivial approach to bi aesthetics but I don't think it's useful to completely dismiss the concept. Some examples:
* Bright colored dyed hair has kind of picked up an association with bi women at this point imo. Consider that "blue hair and pronouns" has become a borderline slur against queer femmes that is distinct from say, stereotypes about scary or manhating lesbians. Instead, "blue hair and pronouns" signals that someone is whiny and whose opinions can be dismissed off hand - just like bi women writ large. (The phrase is also transphobic of course).
* Similarly, goth and alt styles for bi people of any gender. These scenes have always been bi and gender fluid - consider Siouxie Sioux's bisexuality, Morissey's cryptic sexuality, etc, as well as the bi chic aspects of 2000s emo I you mentioned in another post. Anecdotally I (nonbinary person) have flirted with/gotten hit on by a lot of women with these looks. The way media treats members of these subcultures parallels the fetishization bi women receive - consider the widespread fetishization of the "big titty goth gf".
* Some bi women dress in what I'd call a "campy femme" style that's conventionally feminine but louder, featuring bright colors & unusual accessories. Bi activist Lani Ka'ahumanu and *shudder* Krysten Sinema are a few examples. And the large amount of negative attention Sinema has received for her outfits is pretty typical of how bi women are treated in society at large - it's proof in their eyes that she's frivolous and attention-seeking.