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On one hand, I think the discussion focussing on femme women rather than femme men is because it's more obvious that femme men's gender presentation is transgressing gender boundaries and therefore queer. On the other hand, there's complete silence about whether *butch* men's gender presentation is queer.

Personally, I think that's partly explained by the fact that many of the people who insist that femme is "femininity not for the male gaze" believe that butch and femme are lesbian-only terms (in my experience), so of course they aren't going to talk about butch or femme men. But wrt butch men it's also a matter of category collapse among queer men -- "butch" seems to have fallen out of use in favour of "masc", which is more ambiguous about whether you're masculine in a "straight acting" way or deliberately playing up your masculinity in a queer way. (Learning that men could be butch and queer was a bit of a revelation for me as a bi trans man -- I was sad to lose the "right" to the label when I transitioned, so finding out that queer men had been doing butch all along was really affirming.)

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